Child well being is contingent on the level of hostility and conflict between parents. In many cases, divorce does not end marital conflict, but exacerbates it. It is important that parents help their children see the good qualities in each of their parents, and that parents work toward the development of positive relationships with each other.
Healthy co-parenting has six components
- Parent education on the impact of divorce on children is central in helping and maintaining parents getting off of their position and beginning to consider their children first.
- In addition to negotiating a workable parenting plan that meets the needs of children and delineates the responsibilities of parents, PC's also monitor the consistency of the caregiving environments post-divorce.
- Focusing on the development of positive interactions between family members, enhancing communication skills, developing a range of problem-solving skills, and enhancing non-aggressive negotiation skills are part of the PC role.
- Long-term counseling should be made available to children alone and to each parent and each child together during and after divorce
- Long-term success of co-parenting is achieved through emotional healing post-divorce. Measures should be taken to allow each member of the family to gain an increased understanding and acceptance of the divorce as time goes by
- Finally, regular reviews of the co-parenting plan at pre-specified periods are useful during the implementation of the plan.
Divorce coaches can help their clients build self-confidence, and provide them with the tools they need to effectively communicate with everyone involved in the process.
- There are many issues to resolve. The coach can help the client navigate through the details of those decisions.
- The divorce is complicated. Sometimes in complicated divorces, a spouse just doesn’t know where to start. A divorce coach can help the client go through the issues and organize them.
- Money is limited. By making sure the client is organized and has all the relevant paperwork, meeting with the attorney is more efficient.
- Emotional support. The divorce coach can offer emotional support to a spouse who may be overwhelmed and not ready to tackle all the painful issues of the divorce. This is especially true for people trying to tackle their divorce alone.
A personal divorce coach can help build your self-confidence, and provide you with tools on how to effectively communicate with your spouse. Divorces are huge emotional events, and sometimes friends and relatives mean well but they will push people in the wrong direction. A professional and caring divorce coach can reduce the stress and help the person get on with their life.