Moving on from a partner who gaslighted you can be a difficult process. Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse where your partner tries to control you by making you doubt yourself. They may lie to you, deny things that you know to be true, or try to make you feel crazy.
Gaslighting can be incredibly damaging to your self-esteem and your relationship. If you want to move on from the terrors of this relationship, here are some helpful steps you should do.
1. Create A Safety Plan
If you’re ready to move on from a gaslighting partner, creating a safety plan is essential first.
Here are a few ideas to get you started on your safety plan.
- Create a support network of friends or family members you can rely on. These people should be aware of the situation and be able to offer you a safe place to stay if necessary.
- Make copies of important documents like your passport, birth certificate, and driver’s license. Keep these copies in a safe place outside of your home.
- Open a new bank account in your name and keep some cash on hand in case you need to leave quickly.
2. Stay At An Undisclosed Location
If you’re ready to move on from a gaslighting partner, one option is to stay at an undisclosed location. This can be a friend or family member’s house, a hotel, or a shelter.
The important thing is that it’s somewhere your partner won’t be able to find you.
Staying at an undisclosed location gives you time to process what has happened and to make a plan for your future. It’s also a chance to break from the constant stress of being in a relationship with a gaslighter. You can finally relax and focus on taking care of yourself.
3. Severe The Connection Altogether
When a relationship has reached the point where one partner is gaslighting the other, it is time to cut the connection and move on. This is not an easy decision, but it is often the best course of action.
It’s also important to remember that you have a right to leave a gaslighting relationship. This may not be easy, but it is possible. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel safe and respected. If you don’t feel like this is possible with your current partner, it may be time to sever the connection and move on.
4. Reconnect With Emotionally Healthy Family Members And Friends
If you were in a relationship with a gaslighter, it’s important to have a support system of family and friends who can help you see the truth and move on. These people can provide an emotional anchor for you during tough times and help you to rebuild your self-esteem.
If you don’t have a supportive network, now is the time to build one. Reconnect with family members and friends who you may have lost touch with. These people can offer a fresh perspective and help you to see the situation for what it really is.
5. Work with A Mental Health Professional
A mental health professional can help you process the trauma of gaslighting and start to rebuild your sense of self. They can also help you develop a support system of friends and family who can offer you love and acceptance instead of judgment and manipulation.
If you’re unsure whether you’re ready to leave your partner, a mental health professional can also help you assess the situation and make the best decision for you.
You Can Overcome A Gaslighting Relationship
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that can have lasting effects.
If you think you may have been a victim of gaslighting, it is important to reach out for help. Many resources are available to help you deal with the aftermath of gaslighting and rebuild your life.
By the way, if you really want to move on from gaslighting in your relationship and even heal it if you’re still together, I’ll give you some FREE personalized steps on this FREE CALL. The framework I give you there has helped thousands of struggling wives to heal, nurture and reconstruct their marriages and relationships!